Bernard Hopkins

10 ways to promote good emotional development in children

Emotional ability is not something that you have from birth, that is, you do not have it innately, it must be learned during childhood. It is important that parents know some techniques to be able to develop and promote emotional skills in children from their earliest childhood.

Encourage the emotional development of children

Next, we are going to give you some simple keys so that your children can develop that emotional maturity so important for life.

Accept your child

It is important that you accept your child unconditionally, show your love and acceptance no matter what. It is necessary for you to develop your own identity. This will have an impact on all interpersonal relationships you have in the future.

Be loving

All children need physical and emotional contact. For good brain development, your baby must have a lot of physical contact throughout the day. It is as important as any basic need (like eating or sleeping). Give your child affection as often as you can and also show affection to your partner in front of your children. In this way you can model a healthy relationship, something that will affect your child’s future relationships.

Maintain good communication

It is important that you talk to your child often and in a calm, loving voice. Talking is the best way to communicate and also to connect emotionally. Along with physical contact, constant verbal communication is necessary for the good emotional development of your child.

Listen

Talking is as important as listening. Never forget to listen to your children, but do it for real! While they are talking to you, do not look at your mobile. You have to make sure you have time to stop and listen to what they are saying to you at all times. Whatever they are telling you, then respond from the heart.

Create a safe and quiet environment at home

The home environment is crucial for the emotional development of your children. The family environment should be organized and peaceful. In this way you can create a healthy atmosphere in which to learn through discovery without fear and with mutual respect. A safe and quiet environment will give children the all-important sense of physical and emotional security.

In this sense, your home should also be a physically safe place for your children to explore without fear or restrictions. Fragile or valuable objects will not have to be within reach and those that are dangerous must be well stored. If a child grows up in an unsafe environment, parents should avoid exploring it all the time, although if the child listens too much “be careful” or “don’t touch that” he will not feel safe and can generate insecurities in his life.

Lots of playtime!

Playing is the best way for children to learn and develop their emotional maturity. In addition, participating in symbolic play teaches children to express what they feel through play and thus better understand their emotions and understand others. Children will rehearse various situations through play. Water, sand or play dough games are ideal to relieve emotional tension.

You must always be available

When your children need you, you should always be available. Make an effort to stop what you are doing and let your children see that you are by their side. The time you have with your young children is limited as they grow up too fast and will learn almost everything from you. Don’t be distracted while listening to them and give your full attention. Go the extra mile if necessary so as not to look at your phone during the time you spend with your children. Being emotionally available to a child is just as important as attending to his physical needs.

Have time for them

In addition to being available for your children, it is also important that you find time in the day to spend with your children. A quality time that is not cluttered with screens  or doing other things than paying attention to it.

Time is limited, but it will always be divided between the things you prioritize the most. Other things may be delayed or not done, but time with your children is an investment in your emotional bond and it is very fleeting and will never return, so you should make the most of it.

Keep your promises

Children learn very quickly whether they can trust an adult or not. It is vital to always keep the promises you make. A positive parent-child relationship can only be formed through mutual trust. This also teaches them to form trusting relationships with others throughout their lives.

Encourages the exchange of emotions

Teach your child to openly share his emotions. Have frequent conversations about how you feel and how your child is feeling. What are the feelings you experience after a conflict or some situation that makes you temporarily emotionally unstable. Teach your children that boys and girls experience the same emotions and never downplay an emotion based on gender.